Who else is sick and tired of all the way women are being made to police themselves in order to prevent getting raped? Yes, it seems the onus is firmly on womenfolk to not get raped. Not on the men to not rape. Because that, of course, would be asking for too much. So instead we have these super-intelligent acts on the part of governments to create a safer world – like banning lingerie-clad mannequins from store windows in India and introducing hairy stockings to combat perverts in China.
What next? The banning of makeup? Mandatory chastity belts? Locks around the vagina? Do the powers-that-be not realise that if all your warnings are to the victim and none to the would-be rapist, the message is that victims are more in control of whether they are or aren’t raped than the perpetrators. Which we all know is patently false – the only person who can prevent the rape is the rapist.
And really, who thinks that only pretty women get raped? The fact is that rape happens to all kinds of women everywhere: pretty, ugly, sexy, covered from head to toe, mild, wild, annoying, charming, young, old… every shape, size and age. Often, in fact, rape is not even about the sex but power play and sick minds.
So, instead, here here some actually useful tips that I invite you to send to as many people as possible. They are the suggestions of Ann Bartow, of the Pace Law School in Westchester, US. And they are brilliant.
It’s the perfect answer to a complaint I’ve received on numerous occasions: “Why do I need to cover myself from head to toe? It’s men who should be taught how to stop attacking women.” Indeed. I have yet to make that argument successfully since I’ve never met anyone who really admits to being a rapist or assailant. But the next time I do, you can bet I’ll hand them a copy of these rules!
PS: Here’s a SUPERB video on the subject of rape by University of Oregon film student Samantha Stendal. Watch and share!
What about you? Like the rules? Or do you believe that measures like banning mannequins and dressing women in hairy stocking will curb the problem? What, in your view, can society do to prevent rape?